I was reading a great article from Mark Manson wherein he introduces a Law. He calls it Manson’s Law of Avoidance and it goes as follows: The more something threatens your identity, the more you will avoid doing it.
Ever imagine – why often someone in your organisation is happy playing fiddle to the Chief HR. He/she is happy being the Number 2 person in the hierarchy but unwilling to take on the top job.
As a species, Homo Sapiens are obsessed with survival. We have all sorts of unconscious programming which ensures we won’t take unnecessary risks and that we place survival above all else.
Maybe this was relevant in the Forest Age , where we had to strive to be alive against the tigers in the jungle. But still over the years, we have all sorts of unconscious programming which ensures we won’t take unnecessary risks and that we place survival above all else.
You can feel your identity is threatened if you make a million dollars. can threaten your identity just as much as losing all your money.
Becoming a famous rock star can threaten your identity just as much as losing your job.
You would have often had that half scripted manuscript of your book – but never took it forward.
This is why people are often so afraid of success — for the exact same reason they’re afraid of failure — it threatens who they are and what they know now.
Ask yourself what have you wanted to change, start or stop and haven’t been able to? Then ask yourself: how is your sense of who are possibly tied to the not-changing-of-that? Finally, ask yourself: is that true? Am I really that? Or maybe I’m actually not that? I’ll be okay, still me, if I make this change, right? Of course you will.